Every now and again I will see an odd couple where the guy is considerably less attractive than the woman. That’s not always so surprising when the guy makes up for his looks with charisma, but the odd ones are when I talk to the guy and he seems to have a somewhat dull and unremarkable personality.

I’ve finally stumbled on a the missing link between nearly every couple where this is the case that comes to mind:

What the guy lacks in appearance and charisma, he makes up for in tolerance. When I finally talk to the girlfriend or spouse, she ends up having an extremely obnoxious, cold, hypermelodramatic, and/or annoying demeanor. They’re not necessarily unkind to their man, but they find a way to be chalkboard-grating obnoxious even when they’re not trying to be mean.

I remember one guy I met whose girlfriend was so smug, self-important, and abrasive that I wanted to quietly leave the guy a note letting him know that yes, he rose above his station, but no, it’s definitely not worth it.


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6 Responses to Trading Up in Misery

  1. logtar says:

    Some of the most beautiful people I have met become the ugliest as I had gotten to know them.

  2. Becky says:

    I guess my cyncism initially assumed that he made a lot of money.

  3. trumwill says:

    Logtar,
    Yeah, can’t imagine any of them are really happy.

    Becky,
    Good point, though you can often sniff that out as a reason. The guys didn’t dress wealthy and gold-digging girls don’t usually marry “millionaire next door” types. After all, what’s the fun in being a trophy wife if he’s not in to lording it over everyone else?

  4. Abel says:

    Great post! I think there’s something to it. Next time I notice a couple like that, I’ll see if it works. 🙂

  5. Spungen says:

    I’ve long suspected a link between the bland and the obnoxious, both for men and women. One craves the other.

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