There’s a drawn out conversation occurring over at Phi’s place about the propriety of older or married or less attractive men sparking up conversations with young, attractive women. One of the factors is that it’s common for guys to go out of their way to strike up conversations with attractive women that they wouldn’t with guys or unattractive women. Do I myself do this? Not sure. Sometimes I think that I go too far in the other direction. I remember when I was a regular at Seattle’s Best Coffee back in Estacado, I could be downright skittish with the attractive barristas. Not because I was nervous in the same way I would get nervous around girls that I wanted to ask out, but that if I looked at them for a period of time that was construed to be too long they might see me as a lech.

I got a Friend Request today on Facebook from someone that looks not the slightest bit familiar. I have a few friends on Facebook that I don’t know personally, but at least with them I can identify mutual friends. If they’re okay by Hubert, they’re okay by me. That sort of thing. This young woman has no mutual friends. I saw that we went to the same high school, though to be honest her first name rings absolutely no bells with me. It also says that she went to Southern Tech, so I figured maybe we went to high school together and she recognized me from the Sotech student paper. Back when I was a columnist I would periodically get emails from people that never really talked to me in high school. So maybe that was it.

The only thing that gives me pause, though, is that she is relatively attractive. Definitely looking like the sort of girl that would have nothing to do with me in high school. That makes me think that it’s something illegitimate. Sort of like how 90% of the people who added me on MySpace were spam accounts. But so far I haven’t run into that sort of thing at all on Facebook. Besides, how worth their while could it possibly be to mix and match area high schools and colleges? Since we did go to the same high school and college, I was probably a system recommendation or something.

Anyway, I added her figuring that I could un-add her at a moment’s notice if she starts pushing viagra or her new erotic website or something. I just found it interesting to note that if she was a man or an unattractive woman, I doubt I would have even thought twice about adding him/her.


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7 Responses to Discriminating Against Attractive Women

  1. stone says:

    A lot of people just like to collect as many friends as they can. I’ve had several schoolmates who never spoke to me send friend invites, and also college alumni who never knew me. Then once you friend them, they never comment or pay you any attention. πŸ˜‰

  2. PeterW says:

    I realize that you’re mostly talking about this from angle of analyzing your behavior, but I’ll take it on from the angle raised by your title. Yes this may be “discrimination” but I think that attractive people are such a privileged class, and free from the guilt faced by, say, the rich, that this very slight discrimination is not worth bothering about. I doubt the pretty barista will mind.

  3. trumwill says:

    Oddly enough, it appears that I am her first “friend.” She said “Hello” in a chat window while I was out walking. Now she’s got other friends, though. As long as it’s not something annoying, I don’t care. It’s just kinda… curious.

  4. cleared in hot says:

    She said β€œHello” in a chat window while I was out walking.

    It’s your wife checking up on you… πŸ˜‰

  5. rob says:

    Initials MG? I got a friend request from her. Totally weird.

  6. trumwill says:

    MmmmmHmmm… is she listed at the same high school and college as I am?

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